Monday, July 23, 2012

A puzzle which only Time can solve

It has always been a tough task for me to understand why things in our lives happen the way they happen. Sometimes, things turn out the way we planned. But, more often than not, they turn out quite different from what we planned. Of course, there is always that nightmarish situation when things unfold diagonally opposite to what we aspired for. I am sure all of us have been through phases where we wonder, why me? At times when life puts me in situations I never wanted to be in, I wonder if the whole world is conspiring against me!!

An equally tough question to answer is –would it have been better if nobody intervened and let us shape our lives as we wanted? Also, would we be the same persons we are now, if things never failed and we always had the privilege to take the road we wanted? Most possibly, the answer is a strong NO. Undeniably, when we look back, those unfavorable situations and unexpected turns have been instrumental in shaping us into what we are today. It is as if the present is a complex integral resultant of the past. Would the equation be the same even if one single component of the past changes? May be not. May be, the path would have been altogether different and the present would just not be the same. Looks like the past, present and future is complexly intertwined and the complexity is beyond our comprehension. Given this situation, its better we learn to go with the flow and wait for time to answer the question. Does this mean that we don’t make any plans and just ride along? No, but if our plans work out, it’s good. If it does not, maybe it is better.

One of the best analogies I have come across is that we are fitting the pieces of a puzzle. At the moment, due to our limitations, we might not be able to see the bigger picture. But, one day, I hope time would be kind enough to present the picture in its entirety and give us the satisfaction that the puzzle has been solved. At that moment, hopefully there are no open ended questions.

As they say, it’s hard to understand the path of a river, but for sure it will reach its destination. Similarly, all the twists and turns are just probably taking us to a beautiful destination. I remember one of my primary teachers who occasionally used to quote “whatever happens, happens for the best”. I think she was perfectly right.